Whether in the halls of Congress, or in our own front rooms. Conflicts are inevitable. Sheriff Dotson reminds us, conflict can produce good results if handled correct.
Are people struggling with more conflict these days or does it just seem that way? Whatever the case may be, learning to resolve conflicts can help people, young and old, to break down barriers, become leaders, and even prevent deadly confrontations.
Conflict can be negative; in its ultimate form it can lead to war – but it can also be positive, depending on how it is resolved. For example, it can help get feelings out in the open, help people learn from disagreements, resolve problems, gain someone more respect or enable people to learn that others are willing to stand up for themselves and what they believe in.
In fact, conflict is a natural human process that does not have to lead to violence; conflict resolution and anger management techniques can provide opportunities for people to grow and improve their relationships and the quality of life of those around them despite the inevitable disagreements that arise.
* Note that anger is a normal feeling.
* How we handle our anger and how we deal with other people who are angry can make the difference between managing conflict effectively and having conflict end in violence.
* Be aware of triggers, which are any verbal or nonverbal behaviors that result in anger or other negative emotional reactions that can get in the way of resolving conflicts.
* Triggers are like lightning bolts. When they strike, they can interfere with communication.
* To avoid pulling others’ triggers, pay particular attention to your own behavior, even your body language.
* Note that people already use the strategies to control their anger (for example, walking away from a dangerous situation), and that all they need to do is build on that foundation.
* Point out that, even though we sometimes think of ourselves as being out of control, we often choose to “blow up” in some instances and stay calm in others. For example, there is a difference between how we handle anger with our friends and anger with a relative. To resolve conflict, you must stay calm to communicate.
* The less “hot” the anger, the more you can control it.
* Even though your anger may be legitimate, it usually does not help to show your anger to the other person. Sometimes the other person will take you more seriously if you remain calm and courteous.
* Remember that your goal is to be able to get angry without becoming abusive or violent and to communicate your wants and needs without threatening others.
Your Lincoln County Sheriff’s Office is committed to reducing incidents of crime and promoting a safe environment for our citizens and visitors to improve their quality of life.
Additional resources regarding conflict resolution can be obtained by contacting Lincoln Community Dispute Resolution at (541) 574-9846.
For more tips and other information, visit our website at www.lincolncountysheriff.net